Woman Says She Is 'Gutted' That Her Brother Didn’t Invite Her to His Wedding: ‘Am I Being a Massive Drama Queen?'
The woman says the ceremony was attended by her sister, mother and stepdad, yet "nobody" mentioned it to her in advance
The woman says the ceremony was attended by her sister, mother and stepdad, yet "nobody" mentioned it to her in advance Getty Bride and groom (stock image):max_bytes(150000):strip_icc():format(jpeg)/bride-groom-champagne-flutes-021025-29bb591ad92a47e3a3fdb07fb465b77c.jpg "Midsection of bride and groom with champagne flutes and wedding rings")
A woman is feeling “gutted” after she wasn’t invited to her brother’s wedding — but is also wondering if it’s “unreasonable to be so hurt.”
The 54-year-old shared her story in the “Talk” section of the community site Mumsnet.com on Monday, Feb. 10, explaining that she and her brother are “really close” and that she considers him “one of my best friends.”
She continued to share that the U.K.-based brother and his partner of 12 years are planning to marry abroad next year, and that they all “get on great.”
However, the woman — who in a later comment clarified that she lives 150 miles away from the rest of her family — said that “a few weeks ago [...] my stepdad sent me a pic of my mum all dressed up. I sent my mum a message asking where she was going looking so glam - and she replied that she was going to my brother's wedding in London.”
The original poster (OP) noted that her mother insisted that the wedding — which was also attended by her sister, as well as the bride’s parents and brother from abroad — was just a “formality” that needed to be done before the bigger ceremony and celebration in autumn. Getty Beach wedding (stock image)
The woman shared that at that point, she was “really confused” because — despite having recently spoken to both her brother and mother — “nobody” had mentioned any of this to her.
She said that photos from the festivities began pouring in throughout the day, including snaps from the nice meal everyone attended after the ceremony. She highlighted that’s when she really started “to feel hurt.”
“Later in the evening, my brother sent me a pic of them signing the register, saying something along the lines of ‘just the formal bit before the actual wedding!’ “ — to which she said she responded, "Congratulations!! Looks like you've all had a lovely day!! ❤️❤️ xxx."
The poster shared that her brother texted back asking her if he had “done something” and accused her of sounding brusque.
“I messaged him back saying I was absolutely gutted that I knew nothing about this, and that I wasn't invited, and that I really didn't want to spoil his day, so could we speak another time,” she said.
The woman noted that it’s been three weeks and she has yet to receive a response from her sibling — who she suspects might actually feel guilty and is now avoiding her.
“I need some opinions. I'm not one for conflict, but I also won't walk away from confrontation if needed. I am beyond hurt. Everyone else in my close family was there apart from me. Her parents flew in from another country, and I wasn't even invited,” she continued.
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The OP concluded her post by revealing that she is now considering bailing on the main wedding abroad, writing, “Why should I fork out thousands of pounds that I honestly don't have, to go to a wedding of someone that apparently cares so little about me?”
“Am I being unreasonable to be so hurt? Am I being a massive drama queen? Am I making it all about me? I'm just gutted,” she continued. Getty Man and woman mad at each other (stock image)
The majority of post commenters reassured the OP that her feelings are entirely understandable.
“Anyone would be devastated by that, I can't understand how someone could treat a loved one that way,” wrote one commenter.
“That's awful. I'd be in pieces too,” wrote someone else, adding that “even a non-invite” with some kind of explanation for the decision would have been better than not being told about the wedding at all.
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Another person agreed with the OP’s suspicion that the brother’s radio silence may be rooted in a guilty conscience.
“I agree that your [brother's] response was guilt or he was just ready for an argument as he knew he was wrong. I don't think a response exists that he wouldn't have picked up on because he knew he should have invited you. So very hurtful,” they wrote.
